Reply To: Going off the Derech

pcoz-we’ve already promised him things we know he would want, and it doesn’t move him. Even if we were matzliach in coercing him, what would be the point? He’d just be going through the motions. That was part of our mistake the past few years. We were offering all kinds of incentives in order for him to go to yeshiva on time, pray on time. So he ‘went through the motions’, feeling bribed into it, hating it all the way. We never got to the core problem. That’s why I think counseling is the more important way to go