I agree with most of the posters above- don’t worry about the clothes (the bracelet does worry me a little), don’t worry about how many hours he learns, but worry about his attitude. He sounds like an angry kid trying to escape. I said this before and I believe it’s true; you keep on bringing up that wearing colors is rebellious for the chareidi community, therefore this shows where he’s at, and he’s rejecting everything. Your right- he is rejecting everything, FROM THE CHAREIDI COMMUNITY! Give the kid (I don’t know how- maybe something in America) a way to leave the chareidi world and see a modern way of life. Get him away from what he hates. Yes, it could be that by wearing colors he is showing he’s rejecting everything, but maybe the reason he’s rejecting everything is because he thinks “it’s so stupid that these people want to control your whole life, what colors you wear, what music you listen to, what kipa you wear, how big your peyos are, if i need my tzitzis in or out, decide how many hours you have to learn, etc… Why should I be part of such a lame, controlling world?” This is a very typical attitude from OTD teens, so get him into an open and accepting world! Don’t judge if he wears jeans! It will only turn him off more!
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