Reply To: Going off the Derech

Speaker-thanks for sharing your situation, and I wish you much success! So,then Twisted Parenting is for the family, not the child?

daniela-I don’t think my son is dangerous, but when he has his temper tantrums, he makes a lot of threats. I guess, if we pressed all the wrong buttons, G-d forbid, he could go over the edge, like hth said. But usually, we back down, and try to diffuse his anger. I hear what you’re saying, and believe me, I wish it could work out the way you say, that sensibility would just ‘kick in’. But for some reason, it isn’t kicking in, and I’m not optimistic. If he wants to buy something, he might just take money from the pushka. And if I don’t iron his shirts, he’ll just stop wearing them and borrow a tee shirt from his friend.

here to help-We are commited to doing this, and are ready to continue. But just as an aside, I’m not sure a therapist would agree against setting boundaries. Perhaps, ‘giving in’ more has therapeutic value, but to give up complete control feeds their insecurities and fears of abandonment…

BTW, what kinds of kids would this approach NOT work with?