Daniela, I’m not sure where you are getting your facts from, but it sounds like you are suggesting to W.O.W to put the child in a boot camp or correctional facility!
The situation sounds bad, but not any worse than what I’ve come across in general. All of us brilliant minds of the coffee room can sit here for hours and tell you how to raise your son, but at the end of the day it’ll be YOU that will have to deal with the repercussions. My only advice is to get your family a good therapist and rav who will be able to give you time sensitive advice…
I wish you much clarity and luck.