Apologies, I was away from the computer.
I wish to clarify I was not suggesting a correctional facility, which I personally think it’s not a place to send our loved ones to (but which, unfortunately, law enforcement does send people to, and not always for valid reasons). I was suggesting a normal environment, like real life. My clothing does not magically iron itself, the dishwasher / house helper / computer etc. are very nice but come with bills attached, and if I were to disrespect someone, I would have to deal with the obvious consequences. The boy’s attitude is a problem regardless if he’s in yeshiva, in college, in business, or anywhere else. He needs someone, forgive me for saying it, to finally let him know that he is not the center of the universe, nor is he the top of the universe that no one may dare to express displeasure to. But I suppose it’s moot now. We should all wish the best to him now that he left home, and he is an underage whose cash will soon run out. My thoughts are especially with you wow who must be heartbroken beyond belief. I hope something good comes out of this tremendous difficulty you are going through. Please, see a good lawyer and tell him the story and ask for advice. Right now the priority is no longer mussar, it is protecting both him and your family – as you know very well, in israel certain services and agencies only wait for pretexts, and as soon as he gets recorded by any system – document check for security reasons, say – as an underage who left home, your family may be targeted as problematic. I hope nothing happens, that he just stays away for a few days and then returns home a different and better person. It will give him security to be on his own, and his “friends” can probably say to him what he would never accept being told by you and they might do so – let us try to see the good in everything. Be strong please, for yourself and everyone.