kol hatchalot kashot. All beginnings are difficult, it definitely gets easier as you go, but you must take that first step. If you don’t buy him the jeans he will get them somewhere else and then what? If he’s going to wear them anyway you might as well use it to your advantage.
My son has not fully returned yet but he’s home, he’s happy, and part of the family again. I’m sure Hashem sees the tremendous strides we’ve made and is happy as well.
I can honestly say TP was a bigger Tikun for me than it was for my son. I have learned the TRUE meaning of Ahavat Chinam and what it really means to emulate Hashem. Tell your husband he’s not doing G-D any “favors” by alienating his son in the name of Frumkeit. G-D doesn’t need a defense attorney He wants to see his children loving their children not because of what they wear but because of who they are.