Reply To: Going off the Derech

As far as the facts being ‘different’, I must say that I have no idea what you mean. One thing is true, and that is, that the situation changes from week to week. Sometimes, it even changes by the day due my son’s constant search for who he is and who he wants to be. If you are not following this thread consistently, it may appear to you that the story keeps changing, but it’s just that the story keeps evolving to a new level.

“as there is a mitzvah to be silent when our words of truth will not be well-received”

Why is it that your words (and everyone else’s) are ‘words of truth’, and mine are not? It is also a mitzvah to give kaf zchus.

Any parent who is in my shoes knows, that no one can be as effective in blaming me, as much as me blaming myself. It is the natural reaction, whether deserved or not, to search for all the things I might have done wrong that might have brought on this situation. If I wanted insight on this issue, I could never get it from the CR bc none of you are privy to all the nitty gritty details of our lives. So why do think you know? The answer to those questions are between me and Hashem. What I can get in the CR is the benefit of your experiences or knowledge, what worked for you and what didn’t; Recommendations of lectures, Rebbes, and organizations etc, which many of you have given. From the parents of kids OTD I received encouragement and hope to continue, when I felt like I was going to crash. And to those of you who work with kids OTD, I got tremendous chizuk, and will be forever thankful, especially to aries2756 and soliek.

With much gratitude,

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