Reply To: Going off the Derech

Thank-you chansara.

aries2756-I didn’t think I would post again, but maybe I will try to ignore those who are just trying to “stir the pot”. My new situation is what’s breaking my resolve. My son hasn’t slept home in 3 days. He pops in to shower and grab some potato chips, and then he’s out the door to some unknown destination with friends with no names. It’s taking its toll on me. There’s no way to talk to him, let alone reason with him at this time. He’s just not available for conversation. Last week, I thought things were starting to get better. I took him and his friend shopping, and bought my son clothes that he wants, we were laughing and joking, I got them pizza. I even drove him and a few of his friends someplace one night, dropping my cooking in the middle so he wouldn’t be late. He seemed happy, and it appeared as if we were getting our relationship back to where it used to be. But I haven’t seen him since. He shows no concern for any one but himself. He doesn’t care that we worry, and has no sense of how hurtful he is. Next week we have a simcha, b’ezras Hashem, and I’m embarrased to say that I can’t feel any simcha. He is also sabotaging his acceptance back to school, since he and his friend didn’t go to school today bc they “didn’t feel good”. Meanwhile, my son hasn’t been home since Thursday. If and when he comes home, what’s the best way to handle it? I feel like ignoring him completely…