“But B’H, once the music started, everything started to melt away. Wish you were all there…”
WE WERE!!! You were too busy to notice B”H!
I am so happy for you. I just want to point out that your son came because he loves you and the family. It doesn’t matter what he wore. The point is that he came, and his friend was interested enough and supportive enough to come as well. They didn’t do anything to take away from the simcha, they enhanced the simcha by respecting all of you enough to show up! B”H.
Look at it this way. If you had a child in the IDF, he would have come in uniform and he would also NOT have matched the others so the pictures would also not have been so “uniform”. In a few years he will look at the pics and say “Mom, I look like an idiot I can’t believe you LET me come dressed like that!” and then you can all have another good laugh about it.