Reply To: Going off the Derech

aries2756, are you still here?

These Shabbos visits are quite a strain, and maybe I need some advice as to how to get through them. The only way to keep the peace, it seems, is for me and my husband to be mute, perhaps with only some nods and smiles. Then, after doing all his laundry and providing endless snacks, no real food mind you, only sugar-filled treats, we are to then hand over some spending money, cigarette money, or any other money he thinks he might need for things that might come up. Now, I can tell you, my husband and I are not playing our roles terribly well. Sometimes we do speak, and then usually a small war breaks out in my kitchen. This is bc usually we say things that don’t enforce the fantasy that everything he is doing is absolutely correct! For instance, he is planning to go to a friend’s wedding on Tue, so he’s not planning to go to school the whole week! Now doesn’t that make perfect sense? So when I questioned why he had to miss the whole week bc of it, he became enraged at me. So instead of having only a strained Shabbos,I can probably look forward to a strained week! Any advice?