COTW first of all you are not posting with sensitivity towards WOW by pointing out. “likely possibilities” like that. It would be far more helpful to offer chizuk or advice within the framework of where WOW lives and the realities she lives with.
Secondly, I must take issue with what you wrote about the alleged ” ugly truth about Yiddishkeit” I am sorry that the representatives of Yiddishkeit who you have met and suffered because of have hurt you. I must clarify to you, however, that you have chosen to tar all of Yiddishkeit with the same bush based on your experiences. Wouldn’t I be considered racist and small minded if I decided that all people of a certain race were thugs because I got mugged by a group of youths from a particular race? I would be cheating myself of interacting with many wonderful people based upon negative experience with a small subsection of that group.
Before you disparage all of yiddishkeit, meet others who are more accepting of you and certainly don’t add to WOW’s pain. If you were hurt, you know how it feels. Was the best support you received really in the form of bashing those that hurt you?