MsPrincess, I humbly defer to your academic expertise and erudition. However, there must be some person in your life (dare I suggest older person?) that you would consider consulting with before you embark on your mission. Surely you realize that we are not always best situated to recognize our own motivations in any given situation. The risk-benefit analysis might be more accurately provided by someone not directly involved. I realize how difficult it must be for someone so intelligent and learned to find an individual whose advice can be respected, but the search for such a person will certainly prove advantageous. (Trust me on that!)
Mammele, I’m a great fan of your posts. But in this case, you probably realize there’s no point wasting your breath (or keyboard). There’s a great quote, popularly attributed to Mark Twain but probably not actually written by him, about how dumb his father was when he was young… Are you familiar with it?