Reply To: Going off the Derech

MsPrincess- my son is still OTD, unfortunately. Thanks for asking.

Usually if someone is OTD, there are deep issues that caused him to leave his family and the familiar upbringing in which he was raised. It is no simple matter! Your concern is honorable, but you can’t expect to bring him back to his religion by doing something you’re not allowed to do, even if in your circles you are ‘allowed’ to talk to boys.

When you say you don’t think he would try to convince you to go OTD, I’m sorry, but you sound young and naive. Of course he won’t try to convince you with words, but what if he ‘starts’ with you? You’re not only not allowed to give yourself this test, but you’re not allowed to put a stumbling block before the blind. And I’m not quite sure who the blind one would be, him or you…

If your intentions are pure and you really want to help him, find a Rav or Kiruv Organization that can pick up where you’ve left off…