MsPrincess,
You conveniently skipped right over my post, which is fine.
Not so fine- you skipped right over several others who stepped in with great advice. I think you may be new here, so please allow me to enlighten you: Mammele’s advice is always on the mark; always falls in the “Piha pascha b’chachma” category. Ignore her at your peril. As for write or wrong , I can’t even begin to imagine why you’d blithely overlook her wise counsel. There is no one else here with as much experience in the subject at hand, or who approaches the subject matter with that level of deliberation and care. TRUEBT and MDG have a lot to say that’s smart and to the point. And zahavasdad’s last post, while short, might open your eyes to an important consideration. (If you’d bother to read it, I guess I should add.)
So I’m back to the original point I tried to make: Find someone- a Rav, a Rebbetzin, a mechaneches, a parent or relative, an acquaintance you admire. Ask for their advice. I know it’s hard. Your brilliance and proficiency in all subject matters make it difficult to vanquish your own, well-deserved feeling of intellectual superiority. Never mind that. Get yourself some guidance.
Hatzlacha!