the current system is a loser on all fronts and the only thing going for it is that it is so inept it is destined, within a short period of time, to collapse upon itself.
What exactly would you recommend as the ideal, that Rabbonim would like and encourage?
Lets not forget that 75% of singles in our communities get married that way, and we still have a WAY WAY lower divorce rate than the world at large… so B”H it could be worse!