Streek, thanks for that! That’s exactly the superficiality I was talking about.
Being real, my brother was once one of those boys who travelled distances, only to be told “no thanks” after one date. After losing count of how many girls he met, his wife actually came to meet him when they were going out. Their age difference is 6 years. When he started shidduchim she was still in high school. That’s what I meant when saying that whilst in the system it is hard, but there’s a reason for having to wait.