It really has nothing to do with the boat on the water. You have to look at the submarine beneath the waves…
We don’t know what we have done in our past lives. From 5600 / 1840 the Rebbe of Ruhzin and other great names have said we are now all flawed souls. We carry heavy baggage from our past lifetimes. Some meet easy, some take longer. Some don’t need to marry. The Heavenly Court watches out every move. We can try to correct ourselves – or they’ll do it for us.
Add the fact that the angel who calls out matches for soulmates doesn’t always get the right one, right away. If he calls out several names until the Court consents, it means the man has to meet them all first.
Don’t despair. They are guiding you where you need to be.
The third side of this triangle is us. We stuff up. We sin. We pay for it. We are SUPPOSED to meet easily – if we don’t we have only ourselves to blame. The External Forces get in the way. Ask me no more on that.
So show the Heavenly Court you are sorry. Help the unwell. Don’t just put coins in a box which probably sits there for months. Secretly send food hampers to the needy. Pray for someone else. Make an impression. And remember – you’ve got part of your last life’s soul in you, causing all this. Help him.
And read the books of the Chofetz Chaim – he tells you have to make a heavy impression. Show people how to speak properly – you will straighten all your roads…