Here’s my suggestion to you:
Yes, the system is broken and sick in about 1000 ways. You won’t be able to fix it. Nobody can on their own.
Just go out there and brave it. Do your part. Be focused on your goal, which is to get married and have a family. The main happiness of marriage is just being married and having children. You don’t need a great match, just a half decent person. Don’t look for excitement or great conversations or beauty. Just good enough is good enough.
You’ll meet tons of confused people. This includes the singles, their parents, their friends, the matchmakers. Ignore them. Stay focused on your goal.
Go on the date, Be a mentch, have a parnassah, be kovayah itim, minimize contact with the secular world because they’ll fill your head with nonsense. And get yourself married. You find a decent girl, marry her. Hashem will help you and bring you happiness.
Don’t spend 1000 hours talking about dating. It’s a waste of time. And don’t waste time on people who aren’t serious minded about getting married.