Perhaps, but while I’m in awe of BTs for many other reasons, from my experience, male BTs are just as fussy about appearance. Theyre not that much easier to commit. “
My experience was quite different from yours (and yes, I married the BT, a singularly non-shallow, non-fussy about appearance, emesdig and temimusdig special neshama). People are people, whether they are complete atheists, or the most chareidi of the chareidi. Some are really fine and look beneath the surface. Others are incredibly into externals. It is a universal condition.