It isn’t remotely believable that he is a regular litvish yeshivish boy and just happens to wear an up hat. And insisting on that makes it look like you are hiding something.
he isn’t litvish, I guess you could call his family heimish, he is just a regular boy who learnt in litvish yeshivas, skewing slightly towards heimish. my beef was not that girls don’t want him, just that they are not even giving him an ounce of thought, assuming he is chasidish just because of his hat, and not even bothering to find out if it is true – as all those who know him say- that he is not chasidish at all.
the only reason he wears it is because he has always worn it, because his family is sort of heimish and isn’t thrilled with the idea of changing his hat just because some girls are superficial.
plus, as the main thrust of my question was, why is the hat so important that girls aren’t even remotely interested in hearing a word about the bochur , not even one! the second they hear about the hat