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Oy. loyalyid, Joseph and some of the rest of you, please listen to what you’re saying.
“It’s disgusting for a girl to be intelligent and informed, let alone interested in what I’m interested in. It’s her job to adore me for my learning and mine to act superior to her.”
I’ll let you in on a secret, boys. Women like to be respected and taken seriously. They want men who are strong and masculine. They don’t want overbearing tyrants who expect worship and obedience. That is exactly what you guys sound like. Maybe your real character doesn’t come across well in written form. Maybe. I’m just saying honestly and from the heart how it sounds.
As far as that goes, my wife is at least as intelligent as I am. Her accomplishments are in different areas but are just as worthy of respect. And I know for a fact that I can trust her with my life, because I have on a regular basis from belaying me on a rope to wading in and pulling off the one who was whanging my head off the concrete. She’s a woman of valor, and her worth really is greater than rubies. You don’t get blessed like that if you expect flattery and subservience from someone you think of as an inferior.