It could be the girl is doing it because she thinks that’s what the guys want.
The passuk in Bereishis says, according to the meforshim, that man and woman were originally created as one entity and then separated. Each is a half of a whole. Man has chochma yeseira, woman has bina yeseira. Tough to say any half is inferior to the other. while the man is supposed to be the dominant role, That doesn’t imply actual inferiority. A Mamzer talmid chochom is better than a kohen gadol am haaretz, even though the Kohen Gadol gets more kavod and is viewed on a higher level. A Yisroel has the same “olam haba” potential as a Kohen. A Beinoni can earn the same olam haba as an ilui, even though the ilui gets more kavod, better shidduchim, and better positions. Olam haba has nothing to do with the roles of olam hazeh.