I get the impression, from the stuff above, that to be part of the Yeshivish world you have to join a moshav leitzim and say motsai sheim ra.
I wish people were only as careful as to what comes out of their mouth as what comes in their mouth.
If you really believe that that YCT is so bad, pray for them to get better (which I did). See Brachot 10a, where Bruriah tells her husband, Rebbi Meir, to pray for the return of the Biryonim and not speak ill of them. This moshav leitzim is not helping anyone.