Againsthtetide – In saying that if you think its not tzniusdik or otherwise wrong, you should leave, I wasn’t making a judgement call on you. I think you and everyone else here has the capacity to make choices and decisions for themselves based on their worldview and their knowledge, and that they will be comfortable with the outcome of their choices; so, if it makes you uncomfortable, you should find somewhere else to be. It was neither a judgement, nor, LU, was it harsh.
My second point that I shared was based on the several years of experience here that many of us have. Often enough, people come here to promote their perspective, or that of their halachic manhig. Nothing inherently wrong with that, but posing it as a question in the manner done if that was the intent is a passive agressive tactic tht is, once again, familiar to many here.
My third point was, in earnest, if the question was asked neither to promote a particular world view, but out of a sense of conviction and perhaps discomfort with the status quo, davening helps. It would help you, Againstthetide, in that it can lead to clarity and to discovering the path to answers you need, and it can help me, if I am not measuring up to some celestial calculus of sechar and onesh, and you have an insight or perspective that I don’t share. tfilos from good honest people are always welcome.