Why are jewish chat rooms considered appropriate

Because there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.

The only reason why they wouldn’t talk in real life is because it would be “inappropriate” for some people because of tznius issues.

Since they don’t physically see each other or even hear each other at all, and it’s completely impossible to 100% know for sure if they’re actually talking to the other gender, there is absolutely no reason at all for it to be inappropriate in any way

Maybe the public multi-poster setting also resolves unhalachic circumstances of yichud.

Is using Internet vs no Internet a bigger deal than using the CR vs no CR?

1st of all, this is called a forum. This is a completely different layout, experience, and halachic sheila to a chat room. The title of the thread should be changed to reflect that.

A chat room would definitely be assur. 100 percent.

Besides for the fact that there is no to pm anyone or contact them in any way. It is moderated, safe, healthy… etc.

OP, if you feel it is wrong and its a bad hashpo’oh on you, you can leave. If you feel you need to tell others how to behave, I don’t think passive/aggressive questioning of the anonymous posters here is going to float your boat.

If, however, with the purest of intentions you are concerned for my neshomah, I can’t speak for everyone here, but I’ll thank you in advance for including me in your tefilos.

LU, you’re being a bit naive.

Then again, look it could have not had to do with us at all.

Shopping613 has a good point that this is not a “chat room” too 🙂

See DifferenceBetween:

Summary: Difference Between Chat Rooms and Forums is that A chat room is a location on an Internet server that permits users to chat with each other. While Bulletin board(BB or Bboard), discussion forum, discussion board, and forum is a discussion area where user share their thoughts with each other about any topic.

LB and LU, the way the OP was worded most certainly does not come across as if he/she was seeking guidance.

“and if the OP is truly asking for the right reasons, as I wrote, I’ll be grateful if they included me in their tefilos”

If you meant that sincerely, that’s beautiful, & I apologize for misjudging you. However it really had sounded like you were being sarcastic, based on the beg. of your post

I understood the OP in one of two ways (or a combo). I thought he was either trying to understand or pointing out that there may be an issue. I thought the most likely possibility was that it was a combo

He didnt phrase it in an insulting way. As this is a Frum website, it seems to me that it is legit & approp. for him to express the fact that there may be halachic/hashkafic problems. The same way that people say something when they feel that s/t is kefira

And if you think it’s wrong for someone to give someone else tochacha, why is it ok for you to have responded to him the way you did? (I mean that as a ? & not as an attack 🙂

I really shouldn’t be here to tell people they shouldn’t be here to tell people they shouldn’t be here to tell people…

Actually, I wrote it up here, and then cut and pasted on a word document. It may have pressed “send post” first, hoping it was good and taking into account that I could edit afterwards.

It’s much easier to do it that way.

Once you’ve done it one or two times, you get an idea of what the appropriate length is. I was clueless before I started, but now that I did it a couple of times, I feel more clueful.

It is indirectly talking and also this is not a chat room. This is a forum.

Againstthetide, if someone really wants to talk to the other gender they will do it offline.

“A few of the usernames give away the gender of the people behind them.”

While I agree with everything else you wrote and I appreciate your pointing it out since I think it’s good to have that reminder every now and then, I want to point out that you can’t always tell from the usernames even when you think you can.

For example: RebYidd is a girl/woman, I am a girl, Jonny Appleseed is a girl, rebshidduch is a girl, and Little Froggie is a man.

It usually takes about 3 posts to figure out if someone is male or female.

Especially when one involves whining.

😛

Againsthtetide – In saying that if you think its not tzniusdik or otherwise wrong, you should leave, I wasn’t making a judgement call on you. I think you and everyone else here has the capacity to make choices and decisions for themselves based on their worldview and their knowledge, and that they will be comfortable with the outcome of their choices; so, if it makes you uncomfortable, you should find somewhere else to be. It was neither a judgement, nor, LU, was it harsh.

My second point that I shared was based on the several years of experience here that many of us have. Often enough, people come here to promote their perspective, or that of their halachic manhig. Nothing inherently wrong with that, but posing it as a question in the manner done if that was the intent is a passive agressive tactic tht is, once again, familiar to many here.

My third point was, in earnest, if the question was asked neither to promote a particular world view, but out of a sense of conviction and perhaps discomfort with the status quo, davening helps. It would help you, Againstthetide, in that it can lead to clarity and to discovering the path to answers you need, and it can help me, if I am not measuring up to some celestial calculus of sechar and onesh, and you have an insight or perspective that I don’t share. tfilos from good honest people are always welcome.

“Suffice it to say that a YWN forum does not meet the tochacha standard.”

can you say that again in all caps please?

its must be fine to have a cr because how else would we know if we should have one?

Lilmod Ulelamaid: The concept of Naaseh V’Nishma in this week’s parsha shows us that we are supposed to the mitzvos, and do the right thing even if we do not understand it, then we seek to understand.

POTUS: That was a joke

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to clarify.

kitov – ?