Avram in MD, that’s an interesting perspective I’ve never thought of. I’ve bugged my wife for a while with my question over why many BTs try to shoot up to an unreasonable point, then many fall to eating a cheeseburger in a bar on a Friday night 7 years later. Immaturity and timing very well might be part of the “bad” formula why this occurs more often than we all think. Immaturity without the added support of frum parents/siblings makes it all the more so challenging and lonely.
A pet peeve of mine was all the vast amount of sefarim these bochurim bought and kept by their “makom” in the Beis Medrash. I always thought that 5 or 6 sidurim were a little extreme (and we aren’t even including machzorim for the yomim tovim). Better to have 1 solid siddur and use it today and in 10 years, than 6 sidurim and using 0 later one.
{I don’t mean to generalize all BTs, as many are frum and wonderful for many years to come}