Sometimes the answer is a different derech. I once watched a conversation between a guy who grew up yekke and hated it and found himself in Breslov and a guy who was raised yeshivish and was saved by becoming yekke. It was fascinating.
We tend to pump more of the same on OTD kids.
Two good places to look are Samson Raphael Hirsch and Chabad, both kiruv experts who make the religion pleasant.