Shlucha, let me tell you a story. There was once a feineh Yid who was known by the name of his sefer,Chazon Ish. After he was nifter, Folye Kahan was farbrenging, and he mentioned that now that the CI is in gan eden,and he sees the truth, he is jealous of even the little Lubavitcher children who have the zechus to learn chassidus Chabad.the world was in a tremendous uproar, because certain people thought the CI was beyond such criticiams. They wrote into the Rebbe, expecting him to rebuke Kahan for his comments. I stead, at a farbrengen, the Rebbe explained that he was exactly right!
Wait! Ahavas Yisroel! Keilim detikkun! Etc.
The obvious answer is that the keilim detikkun are just a method for presenting the oiros detoihu, but they dont distort or pervert the oirois chas vesholom! I am not telling you that you need to start every conversation with a snag by telling him in ponim arayn what you think of his gedaylim, but neither may you lie – by commission or ommission- and make it sound chas vesholom as if the Rebbe, and therefore Lubavitch, are machshiv those who are not deserving of kovod!