Jo,
“Winnie, how is it that you give a detailed response to a non-serious extra-halachic suggestions of Mr. Rebbetzin yet leave unaddressed my serious and very much halachic suggestion?”
I think WTP basically said what I told you earlier in one nutshell:
“You omitted the last part:
A month later they divorce… unfortunate for Shaindel.”
As for your BesDin taynah. No bes din has any power to be gozar any such tekanos. Same goes to Rebetzin, Marrying is a mitzvah dOraisa and in most cases the chasson is above the age of 21 so EVERY day that it is postponed (once one is ready) for no legit reason is sort of an issur…