Reply To: Your 21 year old son may be ready for marriage

Leiby – Rashi on קידושין כט says no such thing, in fact he says that בני בבל should marry first and then learn so that they won’t have הרהורים, however בני א”י who will be distracted by family obligations should learn first and then marry (EVEN THOUGH they will have הרהורים). You are actually referring to the רמב”ם brought by the ב”ש in שו”ע who says that מי שיצרו תוקפו should marry first. This is can be interpreted as an extreme case of הרהורים, hardly a פירכא on the litfishe Yeshiva system.
Before you call someone an am haaretz you should check your sources.