Syag,
thanks for you suggestion to ask someone else. I appreciate your concern. Do not worry, I did and do learn with people who are probably closer to your attitude of D.T. We all are doing fine.
Common, jack of all trades – exactly.
>> how to educate my kids
I heard the names you are quoting, they do sound militant. This does not take away from possible problems in the community. As Hazon Ish mentioned to the Satmar Rebbe, that he is basing budding haredi system on the Rambam – that if one lives in a bad place, he needs to move, and if that is not possible – go to the desert. So, this successful desert community undoubtfully saved many people both in Israel and probably even more in USA. Still, being in the desert has negative sides, and we are well over 40 years at this point.