Avira > ishah keshereh osah ratzon baalah, not the other way around.
so, you are saying even ish kosher still does not listen. Sounds true….
A little more seriously, if you do not express your ratzon too much, then you will be easily zoche isha kesherah! The way I learned it that the husband should lead in ruchniyus, but not in gashmiyus, so in most daily issues, there is not much reason to express your ratzon, or even to have it (why have it, if you are not planning to express it). To finish the circle, isha kesherah knows ratzon baalah to begin with (see Bina, above), so there is no need to even bother.