R’ Reisman once related that htis question came up when he hosted a couple both geirim, he or they asked if there marriage was bashert.
He asked them what they would rather, and both insisted they would rather it be bashert.
He asked (in the shiur, I’m not sure how much of this was in conversation with them) Who cares? certainly, its a bit interesting but practically why does it matter, to the point that they bot h were adamant that it was bashert.
He mused aloud, that he thinks what drives this is that when things get tough/ hard, we can use it to feel better saying say “oh well, he/she is my bashert ”
This isn’t bad per se.
Just an interesting observation (at least I thought so)