Avram > . I also find it interesting that the CR is not full of angry kollel wives bemoaning their fates.
A fair point. I saw a number of people of all genders working in chinuch who are burnt out with the lifestyle. As a shocking illustration, one complained to me that her husband did not want to move the kid to another school for several years because they both worked in the current school and it was “free”. But you are right, a lot of kollel wives are nashim chayil and do not complain here (although they have their own site).
And I am not at all claiming that something is majority or typical. I am asking – whether we have mechanisms to prevent abuses, however rare they might be. Gemora brings examples of women upset by away husband, so it is not unthinkable.
I out in-laws on the list of possibly non-kosher funding for the reason that if the in-laws are not doing it fully out of their free will, there is avak geneiva here.
Suggestion of working less is accepted, Avira already mentioned that. My understanding that majority of Bavliim would come to the yeshiva for 2 months and go work the rest of the year while reviewing the masechet on their own.