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“That’s litterly to wake up and speak of G-ds kindness to appreciate the morning and be thankful and greatul at the rising sun something we all feel and can feel inherently in our being touching upon something that we are greatul for, rising to a new day and thanking G-d out of greatulness and thankfulness a a new day. And appreciating and Praising G-d for his safety at night.”
Pretty good description of pesukei d’zimra, shacharis, and maariv you give here! Where I disagree is the notion that we feel it inherently. Do you think if we wake up one morning and are just not feeling so grateful… do you think we’re therefore exempt from speaking of G-d’s kindness to appreciate the morning and be thankful and grateful at the rising sun? Or would it perhaps be a healthy thing for us to express our gratitude anyway and work on our perspective?
“And also you don’t stay at a job you hate. You work at a job you can handle or you change your circumstances according to alignment cuz we may not like to work but if we _hate_ working and it’s a horrible job then that’s not healthy. The point is you do adjust your life according to how much you can handle”
These are decisions that require a good perspective to make. Many people dump a job (or chas veshalom a spouse) because they think they’re not happy enough, but then find that things are even worse on the other side. If you hate your job, you owe it to yourself to really think things through before taking action. Why do you hate the job? Is the work itself odious? Personal problems with the boss or a co-worker? Maybe you don’t think the work you are doing contributes anything meaningful to the world? Sometimes these things can be ameliorated, sometimes not. Sometimes its your own perspective that’s a problem. I love the work I do, some tasks more than others, but we’re plagued with terrible IT support. Many of my colleagues get really bent out of shape that their work is made harder on some days, or that we lost time fixing things unnecessarily. But hey, so what if we had to spend the day reprocessing data because of a bad patch? I’m getting paid, and I can calmly explain the situation to management, and it’s their job, not mine, to ensure that IT meltdowns don’t impact our mission.
“doesnt mean I can’t admire it for what it is and still choose my way. Everytime you see a painting do you force yourself to love it. You appreciate it for what it is and move on to do your own thing. This is real life.”
The last pasuk in the book of Shoftim says, “In those days there was no king in Israel, every man did what was right in his own eyes.” Do you think that’s meant in a good way, or a bad way? Also, it’s very interesting to me how people who argue against observance tend to use the phrase “real life” or “real world”, as if frum Jews aren’t living a real life in the real world. It’s the olam hasheker that likes to call itself the real world.
“You may show up for every yid as a whole to daven because that’s your responsibility but your a human being and I’m sure that’s not your intention Everytime you show up to daven”
No, of course not. I wish it were, and it’s a worthy goal to work towards. But you can’t even begin to work towards that goal if you don’t show up at all.
“and you think G-d can’t hold up the world without you doing exactly what you just said.”
Umm what? That isn’t even remotely close to anything I think, or have ever written. G-d has absolutely no need for us whatsoever.
“alao responsibility like that can sometimes be heavy and you can’t expect yourself to always do everything for everyone else all of the time. Your an individual.”
Yeah, responsibility can be heavy. Whatever. Gotta grow up and put on your big boy pants sometimes. What’s tragic is that you seem to frame individuality as mainly limitations. I’m an individual so I can’t … Healthy individuality means bringing something uniquely you to the world. It’s bogus to say I’m advocating for doing everything for everyone else all of the time and losing myself in the process. It’s necessary take time to “be” as you say, or to get off my feet, read something, walk with my wife, get a babysitter, order pizza, or whatever. But “being” as you say cannot interfere with my obligations. I can’t say to my kids, “sorry little fellas, this is a ME day today, so you’re on your own for food and anything else you need.” That’s not being. It’s being bad.
“I may be able to go to sleep every night only for one hour, I can train myself and adapt myself to that but that will impact my entire life in a negative manner. We can adapt to a lot of things doesn’t mean we will be utilizing our energies properly and in a healthy fashion. If you don’t take proper care of your body if you push yourself further then your capabilities you will ultimately harm yourself .
“I may be able to go to sleep every night only for one hour, I can train myself and adapt myself to that but that will impact my entire life in a negative manner. We can adapt to a lot of things doesn’t mean we will be utilizing our energies properly and in a healthy fashion. If you don’t take proper care of your body if you push yourself further then your capabilities you will ultimately harm yourself .”
I never advocated anyone push themselves beyond endurance. In fact, most kiruv experts advocate for a gradual adoption of mitzvos, not an all or nothing approach. In drashos to ba’al habatim rebbeim say to increase our learning. Try to add in 10 minutes a day, or even just 5. Start going to a regular shiur. They don’t say, “quit your job and get thee into kollel now!” The key is consistency, avoiding complacency, and looking for ways to improve. I think you are using the beyond endurance argument as an excuse to avoid things you just don’t want to do.