YYA, you have a point, we are always stereotyping here, it is a nature of online anon discussion, thanks for reminding to keep it lower.
I am mostly responding to the positions articulated here by posters and sometimes articles with pronouncements. I am obviously aware that not everyone thinks like that – and I welcome when someone says that, like you sometimes do! I do think that info we are getting reflects some of the reality. I do get more feedback from US in-town communities – and sometimes stereotypes are, sadly, confirmed. Again, not to say everyone is doing same. One of my kids gets jelous sometimes and recently when the guest was discussing what kind of medical, dental, and educational things they get for free while we pay thousands dollars for, the kid started repeating after each item – why don’t we move to NY!? I had to shash him, so we dn’t get into discussion what kind of poverty programs are involved in getting all this “free” stuff.