It’s a good point to ask how many other users here have YeshivaNet. I don’t- but it seems unlikely that only six people are affected by this.
GMAB, I too must ask your forgiveness for initially believing that you had acted deceptively. I’m glad to see that everyone here has learned the lesson of dan l’kaf zechut even when it does seem impossible.
@BYgirl- Maybe I didn’t make myself clear. I stated that red is an eye-catching color. “Enticing” was your word. I do not for one second believe that a woman who wears a red garment is “enticing” or “seducing” or in any way causing men to have improper thoughts about her, unless, as stated before, the garment also happens to be clingy, scant, or see-through. This also is assuming that the woman does not wear head-to-toe red, but that she happens to have on a red shirt with, say, a denim skirt.
Yes, I find the story about my mother to be cute, but more than that, I think it’s amusing. It seems obvious to me (and I see that we are of two minds on this subject) that the timing of my parents meeting and my mother buying red clothing was contiguous but not connected. In other words, my father was not attracted to my mother simply because she wore red. (I also believe that when my mother says that she bought “a whole wardrobe” of red, she is exaggerating. I have looked at pictures of her from that time, and she really did not wear so much red. In any case, I’m sure she doesn’t remember what she was wearing the first time they met.) They had 22 years of marriage based on a foundation of love, respect and caring. Sure, there was a physical attraction; marriages need that (see the shidduchim and weight thread.) But my parents met because they lived in the same apartment building and had mutual friends. The history of my parents’ friendship, dating relationship and marriage has nothing whatsoever to do with what either of them wore. So am I “proud” of the way my mother acted? That’s a strange question to ask; I don’t think that there was anything wrong with what she did, but it also didn’t accomplish anything. My father chose to ask her out on a date because he enjoyed spending time with her and could tell that she had good middot. He didn’t ask her out because he liked her clothing. So I wouldn’t use the word “proud”, but she did no harm by acting facetiously, so why should I hide it?