re: looks
1- a family member of mine, whom we all thought had the best taste in the fam, married someone quite ugly. We will never understand if it was love that blinded or amazing middos to see past the external (and eventually it obviously didn’t get in the way)
2- my friend married someone very unattractive. The looks really got in the way while dating, and somewhat faded when they got engaged. It finally disappeared completely.
I am not saying that this is for everyone. But I think it’s a pretty high madreigah