Don’t even get me started on the alcoholic. The worst thing about an alcoholic is that he or she NEVER believes there is a drinking problem. The guy who cannot refrain from drinking while on a date, is the guy who potentially down the line may have a drinking problem, if not already. And most frum girls do not like to go out with guys who like to drink. I will take a drink at a simcha (always a pina colada), and I drink wine for kiddush – but I don’t go out to dinner and have a cocktail (not saying that’s a terrible aveira to do so, but it is not the norm for most frum people). While dating, for sure it looks bad that the guy has to have a drink, especially if he is driving (and before you say, oh it’s only one drink, what’s the big deal, why does he need the one drink while on a date?).
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