>>I’m sorry you feel that way, but if your daughter C”V never gets married because she refuses to go out with her Bashert who is a smoker, are you going to kick yourself or not?<<
This is krum. This “bashert” card really gets to me. Should she not go out with a Mechallel Shabbos because maybe he is her bashert? How about a person with an abusive dominating personality?
Look up the gemarra in Sotah, there is Zivug Rishon and Zivug Sheini. Ask Da’as Torah, when one dates they need to conduct themselves in a manner as if they are looking for Zivug Sheini