Yes Bein Hasdorim. I understand that point of view. But I know for a fact that many; many people won’t even consider such an outrageous match for their brother; sister; daughter etc.
Now I am not talking about someone whoi wasn’t religous and lived through things that we can’t even imagine. I am talking about person who probably became religious in his late teens or early 20s who doesn’t have too much baggage. Because let’s face it many young people in the yeshiva or bais yaacov could have had more baggage and they just know hoe to cover it up.
Now I understand about the upbringing being different. But don’t you think that if someone left their previous less strict lifestyle because they saw the beauty of the torah and the mitzvos they won’t be willing to fit in the most possible?