Excellent points.
Once the out-of-town girls move to other cities to further their education in order to “support their talmid chacham” they assume an aura of superiority and feel they are Hashem’s gift to mankind. Many boys aren’t as special, and certainly wouldn’t want to take away Hashem’s gift to mankind from the rest of society!! So, they take a pass on her.
Cherrybim: Most of the divorces/disaster stories we are seeing in the past three years are directly linked to girls and their families settling for the bottom-of-the-barrel families, out of fear of becoming a “statistic”. So, yes those who married from the pressure are getting divorced at higher rates.
Also…
I’m writing this very vaguely, but try to understand. More boys went through very difficult circumstances and have therefore spent time vacilating in frumkeit, and many have lost the interest in marriage and staying married. The loss of so many boys from the potential pool is the “direct” cause of the shidduch “crisis”. Deny it all you want but it’s the sad reality of our times.