jphone –
For all we know, there is plenty of flirting and 95% of what is submitted, never makes it online (it seems like 95% of the things I write, never make it online either!).
95%???
Are you a mod or something?
The only thing you can know is your items and the people you know that told you. That may be 95%.
Have you ever heard of projection?
In classical psychology, projection is always seen as a defense mechanism that occurs when a person’s own unacceptable or threatening feelings are repressed and then attributed to someone else.