To Health,
You for sure sound like a mental health professional. (not to say that you are one) I’m not saying we’re losing a lot of our kids, but we are giving them reason to think that our world is hypocritical.
Now about yeshivas, yes there are plenty of kids having bad experiences in school/Yeshiva. But its not only from the Yeshiva, its also from the child’s background and surroundings. Granted school plays a major role in this. But we do send our children to school for a very long amount of time, so of course they’ll get into trouble, rebel or turn to thrill seeking. I have also heard about disgusting and hair-raising cases about what goes on in some schools. Trust me I’ve also heard first hand about things that have happened to people that are close to me at the expense of their school. Also, I can’t tell you about all the countless times I myself have been hurt or mistreated by the institutions,schools that I myself have been in.
You ask WHY do kids do the things that they do-to make a point or to show you how much they’re hurting inside. But can we honestly answer that question? Do we remember what it was like being teenagers and What their perception of the world is like? Its very different from that of an adult’s perception of the world.
We’ve just become more aware and accepting of the psychological field. How can the ROSHEI YESHIVA get their students enough mental help if there still is a stigma-however slight it may be, so they have a tough job trying to convince people that they are actually ones that need mental help. You never think its going to happen to you and when it does it probably feels like your world is spinning out of your control. I also hope that one day we’ll there will be school psychologists in these places, and that it won’t be taboo, but until then we have to make best of the situation that we’re in right now and daven that it will turn out good.