Jphone:
Your cyncism aside,
The “crisis” is a result of an inequtiy of numbers of girls in relation to the boys. This has many devastating derivatives, among them it causes the girls side to desperately hound shadchanim in hope of getting attention. Having more shadchanim involved would help slightly (I write slightly because the boys seem to be getting married any way). The idea of girls families offering compensation for getting quality dates is simply a way for a individual girls to get attention from the shadchan.
It is my belief that both sides should compensate the shadchan as simple mentlichkeit but that was not the message of my original post in this thread.