Reply To: Crazy Shidduch Story

Maybe the mods should re-name this site “Yenta World News,” because of all the requests for an update.

They’ve gone out twice, they’re supposed to go out again. The first date was supposed to be “quick coffee,” but it turned into two hours. I do not know where they went the second date. “Dovid” is being very quiet; his mother told me she asked him what he thought of the girl (I think we’ve named her “Stranded” here, right?) and he said, “I’ve asked her out again, that should say something, right?”

“Stranded’s” story is a bit more complex – apparently she was usually going out with more “yeshivish” guys, guys who intend to spend a few years learning after marriage. “Dovid’s” plan is to get his degree in the spring and go to work (he goes to a morning seder and shiur, and college in the afternoon and night; he spends Sunday mornings in yeshiva). Stranded is also among the last of her friends to get married. Apparently, she was with some of them the other night and one of the other girls made a remark about Stranded’s “giving up” and “settling” for someone who is not “k’lei kodesh.” The remark really bothered Stranded (I heard this from Dovid’s mother, who heard it from the Aunt), who confided in the aunt (now the shadchanis) – but the Aunt asked Stranded, “Do you think he has good middos and values? Do you think he would be a good husband and father? And, most importantly, do you enjoy spending time with him?” At that point, Stranded began to cry and said that of all the boys she had been redt to, Dovid was the one with whom she felt she could be herself. And the aunt said, “So, nu?”

So, the aunt saves the day once again –