Cheerful: I can’t see myself bringing this issue up in an actual conversation. My parents and family don’t dream that I’d be happy with something else. It’ll be a total shock for them… Never mind the whole conversation. I first need to get the message across that I’m not at the point where they believe I am…
And to get such a conversation running would require lots of tact, thought AND courage. I can’t see myself doing it. Its a real tough situation…
I don’t know you or your parents, but as a mother myself, I can say that I would want my children to be HAPPY with whomever they marry.
Do you think it will be better for you to keep dating the same type of guy and keep turning them down one by one? You said you were older already when you started dating because of older siblings. Please consider that as you move along in your dating career, you are not getting younger. How long are you going to keep up the facade? How much time will you allow to go by?
Keep in mind that 1) It is not really fair to boys you are dating to go out with them, if you know that it is not what you want; 2) Won’t it be painful and frustrating for your parents to keep sending you out on date after date, and wondering why no one is working out? 3) Will you just give in and accept a guy you are not really going to be happy with, just to make everyone else happy? Or will you eventually decide that you have to tell your parents that this is not what you want? Wouldn’t it be better to have that conversation NOW rather than in a year or two of pointless dating?
Just something to think about.