heretofore –
I have no idea how you got that from the story. In the story they put him in jail and nobody had a problem with that, they held it was the right thing to do. It was after they tested his Torah knowledge that they saw he was an adam chashuv and worthy of being machmir that they let him free, but they never changed their principle that one who isn’t holding there should not be machmir.
What you are saying about a rav is something I reiterated over and over again in my previous posts. Of course one has the right and should follow whatever their rav says. But apparently no one on this forum seems to be mindful of that, because if they were I wouldn’t have to defend my position of c.s. being mutar gamur even not b’shas hadchak – something I also reiterated many times that I got from my rav. So obviously I’m only arguing to those people who “my rav paskened this way” isn’t enough for them, which I don’t agree with, but I’m trying to defend my position against them anyway.
And just because no kol korei came out in the yated against being machmir doesn’t mean there aren’t rabbanim who hold it isn’t proper to be machmir. Like I said, my rav holds this way, and so I heard first hand besheim R’ Dovid and R’ Reuven – the sons of R’ Moshe. And I posted this more than once on the thread, so you must not have been paying attention.
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The way to become a baal nefesh is not to keep chumras. Chumras are things a ba’al nefesh does, not what make him up. Just like keeping shabbos doesn’t make you Jewish – once your Jewish keeping shabbos means something, chumras are at best meaningless to someone who is not a ba’al nefesh and at most very damaging. I refer you to Alei Shur, I think it’s a very good sefer and this concept is something he advocates very strongly.