AZ – you came here looking for solutions, which I’m trying to offer. By focusing only on BMG, you’ve overlooked the solution that I’ve proposed.
Yes, there’s very few boys that remain single in BMG after 7 years.
But…… that’s my point!!!
A girl enters shidduchim only looking for a certain type of boy. As she starts getting older, there are very few of that type boys that remain for her to date.
Thus, as she gets older – she has to broaden her search. That means, now she must start looking for boys who perhaps she wouldn’t have considered earlier in her shidduch search. This may include a boy from a different Yeshiva, a working boy, a divorcee, an almon, a Baal T’sheva, etc., etc. She’s not sacrificing on the important things like middos, etc. She is just looking at ideas that she would have never considered before.
You have reffered to them as “second tier chairs” – which in my humble opinion – is cruel. I’d rather use the term alternative chairs. And, as I wrote – sturdy & solid chairs, just different from the ones that you saw in the first room.
Speak to those who deal with older singles. They focus on different ideas for older singles. They work to come up with shidduchim for older singles that are on target, but ones that the single may have never considered when they began dating.
Those who have made shidduchim for older singles will confirm what I’ve wrote. I assume you haven’t & therefore you may not be able to appreciate what I’ve written.