Reply To: Musical Chairs and Shidduchim

GAW: what do you mean by adding 10% more chairs 5x. that sounds interesting. how do you propose bringing that about?

GAW: some work has been done to see if the numbers of boys/girls “going off” are significantly out of wack.

To clarify for the purpose of these discussions going off means -and not getting married in the normal orthodox scene. If a individual boy/girl has R”L a rough few years and by 20/23 whatever is back in the scene B”H, then for the purposes of our discussions it is not relevant what took place earlier.

To answer your question: To date no concrete hard data has been shown. Insights from people who actively deal with the at risk situation seem split as to whether the problem is roughly equal or more boys R”L are becoming and staying irreligous, but it doesn’t seem like anyone has do date done a real study. It would be a great help if you would be able to cull that info together. It is very possible that this issue further diminishes the available chairs vis a vis the participants making thus an already cruel game even worse. However no one thinks or has any reason to believe that the numbers of boys staying irreligious is anywhere remotely near the the number of extra participants.

BP: If only you were correct. You seem to argue that the girls are saying no etc. the result should thus been masses of older single boys who never go a fair shake from the girls.I won’t debate you, i’ll only say that info on the ground doesn’t support your theory.